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Relationship and Parent Coaching With an Experienced Mom and Dad
Written by Cheri Bollman

School is out which mean my three teenagers are home for the summer. My retired Navy SEAL husband is in between contract jobs so he is also home. I would like to be gone! I am thinking maybe -- me, on a raft winding down a lazy river in the warm sunshine, a fruity drink in my hand -- for a week! But the reality check is that’s not happening anytime soon. So, instead off I go to the next best thing --a long bath with a bath pillow, glass of wine and a candle. I let the water run as if it were the sound of waterfall. After a couple hours I emerge. Wrinkled.

Reality hits and I again I hear familiar voices: “Mom, can I . . . ‘”, or “Honey, did you know . . .”

Because you see, the reality is this: I need to be fulfilled and happy with my teenagers home and my husband home and that has come at the price of learning to have loving, authentic relationships that include effective communication and clear boundaries.

In fact, my husband and I are getting so good at this that we are now RELATIONSHIP and PARENT COACHING -together! We are so good at this – communication and boundaries - because for so long we were so bad. Terrible!

Dave, by nature, is abrupt and abrasive -- sees things very black or white. Organized and controlled in everything he does and says. For relaxation, he enjoys movies and the History Channel. I, on the other hand, am tender and genial. I see things more gray and don’t mind a little clutter. I like to be spontaneous. For relaxation I like going outside, taking a walk at the beach and watching professional team sports on TV.

Parenting toddlers and teens (who have their own personality and temperament differences) just added another whole difficult dynamic. Dynamic meaning like dynamite -- sometimes explosive. Our individual differences affected our relationship as a couple and our family as a whole. Intimacy was replaced with intensity called arguing. Fighting. Yelling. Withdrawing. Daily battles.

To defend ourselves in these daily battles our defense systems were triggered. For safety we remained at an emotional arms length away from each other instead of going to each other and finding refreshment in each other’s arms. It was a maddening cycle.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

To get off the insanity cycle we had to start doing things differently. For so long, we just didn’t know what those things were. Now we do, of course, and have for some time. We want that for you, too.

Together, Dave and I invite you for RELATIONSHIP and PARENT COACHING. We are offering summer and fall seminars along with private sessions. If any of this sounds like familiar territory, Join Us!!

Cheri is trained in Crucial Conversations by Vital Smarts, a Certified Parent Instructor, BCI and Certified Parent Instructor, Love and Logic. She is the recipient of the Human Rights Award from VA Beach HRC and the Parents Day Award from the American Coalition of Virginia.
She has made appearances on Oprah, Good Morning America and ABC Family.

Parent Seminar August 21, 2010 5 - 8 pm Contact Cheri

www.aCupofCoaching.com
cheri@aCupofCoaching.com
(757) 615-8110